The Struggle of Love

Each day, we grow, evolve, and discover ourselves, or we continue in a pattern better described as a cycle. They say that nothing happens in a vacuum, and I agree; no one wakes up one day and suddenly falls out of love with their spouse, children, work, or their desire to achieve something.

So, what can we do to recover, and can love ever be restored to its original state? They say love is fickle, but we often ignore this truth, consumed instead by the passion and fire that love ignites. We all crave the thrill and excitement that love brings, as it makes us feel untouchable or on top of the world.

Have you ever witnessed someone in love? I’m sure you have at some point, feeling that this person is your world, your everything, and that nothing or no one could change your mind about them. But what happened to that love? If it’s still alive, congratulations! If it’s not, take heart.

Remember not to break yourself further in the pursuit of love, for love itself is often found with broken people. Jesus exemplifies true love, and not in the Romeo and Juliet sense. You might disagree and chuckle, but true love wants you to live, thrive, flourish, forgive, recover, and learn to unlearn. It is patient, not conceited, and it evolves never the same, just like the steadfast love of God, which is new every day.

I don’t want a static love; I desire a love that renews itself daily. I want one that matures with time and the seasons. My father, Apostle Francis Adjei, often teases a couple I know for their kind of love. The man used to visit his fiancée in Kasoa every day just to drive her home from work and stay to help with household manly tasks before returning to East Legon late at night. That was a special season for their love.

There are different seasons, different shades of love not the “fifty shades of grey kind ,” but a love that embodies endurance and tolerance, understanding the shifts and changes of life. This is the kind of love that is generational, not just a fleeting moment. It is the God-kind of love that reveals more of your flaws than those of the other person.

However, if there are red flags, my friend, run as fast as you can. Don’t allow toxic love to infect you like a cancer. Violence is not love; it is a disease that you cannot cure, and you will only become a victim of it.

May true love, like that of Christ, thrive in your life, and may your generation find that type of love by mastering the art of love.

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